Powers That Beat by @ELyssaD™: Embracing my life with Aspergers

Embracing my life with Aspergers

For me, learning I had Aspergers was a huge relief. An “OMG” moment… you mean there is a name for it?

I have always been different.

I find the ordinary world ridden with useless scents, sounds, noise, and people.

People that lie, manipulate and hate.

Manipulative people are a mystery to me. Why not just ask for what you need?

I have always been one to give people what they need. Not necessarily what they want, but what the need.

People don’t need that loud blaring music or strong scented perfume.  All it does is provide a distraction. One I can live with out.

When asked questions, I tell people the truth unaware that the truth is not what they want to hear. Kinda like, “do these pants make my ass look fat?” my reply might be, “no your ass makes your ass look fat.”

Not exactly what people want to hear, huh?

I notice other behaviors and “oddities” that can now be attributed to Aspergers… not liking to be hugged by strangers; difficulty dancing with people other than myself.. I want to ask, “what do I do with my hands?”

I still get lost in my own head, my own home, my own neighborhood… but I’m finding my way… I may have gotten here a little later than most, but hopefully points are given for starting late and finishing strong.

My life with Aspergers is just beginning… I have much to do…

For now, that’s all.

Just me,

e
@ELyssaD™

Powers That Beat by @ELyssaD™: Embracing my life with Aspergers

Embracing my life with Aspergers

For me, learning I had Aspergers was a huge relief. An “OMG” moment… you mean there is a name for it?

I have always been different.

I find the ordinary world ridden with useless scents, sounds, noise, and people.

People that lie, manipulate and hate.

Manipulative people are a mystery to me. Why not just ask for what you need?

I have always been one to give people what they need. Not necessarily what they want, but what the need.

People don’t need that loud blaring music or strong scented perfume.  All it does is provide a distraction. One I can live with out.

When asked questions, I tell people the truth unaware that the truth is not what they want to hear. Kinda like, “do these pants make my ass look fat?” my reply might be, “no your ass makes your ass look fat.”

Not exactly what people want to hear, huh?

I notice other behaviors and “oddities” that can now be attributed to Aspergers… not liking to be hugged by strangers; difficulty dancing with people other than myself.. I want to ask, “what do I do with my hands?”

I still get lost in my own head, my own home, my own neighborhood… but I’m finding my way… I may have gotten here a little later than most, but hopefully points are given for starting late and finishing strong.

My life with Aspergers is just beginning… I have much to do…

For now, that’s all.

Just me,

e
@ELyssaD™

Hands Clean – ELyssa Durant © 2012

“Hands Clean”

If it weren’t for your maturity none of this would have happened

If you weren’t so wise beyond your years I would’ve been able to control myself

If it weren’t for my attention you wouldn’t have been successful and

If it weren’t for me you would never have amounted to very much

Ooh this could be messy

But you don’t seem to mind

Ooh don’t go telling everybody

And overlook this supposed crime

We’ll fast forward to a few years later

And no one knows except the both of us

And I have honored your request for silence

And you’ve washed your hands clean of this

You’re essentially an employee and I like you having to depend on me

You’re a kind of my protégé and one day you’ll say you learned all you know from me

I know you depend on me like a young thing would to a guardian

I know you sexualize me like a young thing would and I think I like it

Ooh this could get messy

But you don’t seem to mind

Ooh don’t go telling everybody

And overlook this supposed crime

We’ll fast forward to a few years later

And no one knows except the both of us

I’ve more than honored your request for silence

And you’ve washed your hands clean of this

What part of our history’s reinvented and under rug swept?

What part of your memory is selective and tends to forget?

What with this distance it seems so obvious?

Just make sure you don’t tell on me especially to members of your family

We best keep this to ourselves and not tell any members of our inner posse

I wish I could tell the world cause you’re such a pretty thing when you’re done up properly

I might want to marry you one day if you watch that weight and keep your firm body

Ooh this could be messy and

Ooh I don’t seem to mind

Ooh don’t go telling everybody

And overlook this supposed crime

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UR – ELyssa Durant © 2012

“UR”

burn the books they’ve got too many names and psychosis

all this incriminating evidence would surely haunt me

if someone broke into my house

suits in the living room

do you realize guys I was born in 1974

we’ve got someone here to explain your publishing

we know how much you love to be in front of audiences

hopeful you are

schoolbound you are

naive you are

driven you are

take a trip to new york with your guardian

and your fake identification

when they said “is there something anything

you’d like to know young lady?”

you said “yes I’d like to know what kind of people

i’ll be dealing with”

precocious you are

headstrong you are

terrified you are

ahead of your time you are

don’t mind our staring but

we’re surprised you’re not in a far-gone asylum

we’re surprised you didn’t crack up

lord knows that we would’ve

we would’ve liked to have been there

but you keep pushing us away

resilient you are

big time you are

ruthless you are

precious you are

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UR – ELyssa Durant © 2012

“UR”

burn the books they’ve got too many names and psychosis

all this incriminating evidence would surely haunt me

if someone broke into my house

suits in the living room

do you realize guys I was born in 1974

we’ve got someone here to explain your publishing

we know how much you love to be in front of audiences

hopeful you are

schoolbound you are

naive you are

driven you are

take a trip to new york with your guardian

and your fake identification

when they said “is there something anything

you’d like to know young lady?”

you said “yes I’d like to know what kind of people

i’ll be dealing with”

precocious you are

headstrong you are

terrified you are

ahead of your time you are

don’t mind our staring but

we’re surprised you’re not in a far-gone asylum

we’re surprised you didn’t crack up

lord knows that we would’ve

we would’ve liked to have been there

but you keep pushing us away

resilient you are

big time you are

ruthless you are

precious you are

ELyssa Durant © 2012 || All Rights Reserved ELyssaD™

DailyDDoSe™ @ELyssaD™

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“American Girl”

Well, she was an American girl
Raised on promises
She couldn’t help thinkin’
That there was a little more to life somewhere else
After all it was a great big world
With lots of places to run to
And if she had to die tryin’
She had one little promise she was gonna keep

O yeah, all right
Take it easy, baby
Make it last all night
She was an American girl

Well it was kind of cold that night,
She stood alone on her balcony
Yeah, she could hear the cars roll by,
Out on 441 like waves crashin’ on the beach
And for one desperate moment
There he crept back in her memory
God it’s so painful when something that’s so close
Is still so far out of reach

O yeah, all right
Take it easy, baby
Make it last all night
She was an American girl

“Second Chance”

My eyes are open wide
And by the way, I made it
Through the day
I watched the world outside
By the way, I’m leaving out
Today

I just saw Hayley’s comet
She waved
Said, “Why you always running in place?”
Even the man in the
Moon disappeared
Somewhere in the
Stratosphere

[Chorus]
Tell my mother,
Tell my father
I’ve done the best I can
To make them realize
This is my life
I hope they understand
I’m not angry, I’m just saying…
Sometimes goodbye
Is a second chance

Please don’t cry
One tear for me
I’m not afraid of
What I have to say
This is my one and
Only voice
So listen close, it’s
Only for today

I just saw Hayley’s comet
She waved
Said, “Why you always running in place?”
Even the man in the
Moon disappeared
Somewhere in the
Stratosphere

[Chorus]
Tell my mother,
Tell my father
I’ve done the best I can
To make them realize
This is my life
I hope they understand
I’m not angry, I’m just saying…
Sometimes goodbye
Is a second chance

Here’s my chance
This is my chance

Tell my mother,
Tell my father
I’ve done the best I can
To make them realize
This is my life
I hope they understand
I’m not angry, I’m just saying…
Sometimes goodbye
Is a second chance

[x2]
Sometimes goodbye
Is a second chance

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“American Girl”

Well, she was an American girl
Raised on promises
She couldn’t help thinkin’
That there was a little more to life somewhere else
After all it was a great big world
With lots of places to run to
And if she had to die tryin’
She had one little promise she was gonna keep

O yeah, all right
Take it easy, baby
Make it last all night
She was an American girl

Well it was kind of cold that night,
She stood alone on her balcony
Yeah, she could hear the cars roll by,
Out on 441 like waves crashin’ on the beach
And for one desperate moment
There he crept back in her memory
God it’s so painful when something that’s so close
Is still so far out of reach

O yeah, all right
Take it easy, baby
Make it last all night
She was an American girl

“Second Chance”

My eyes are open wide
And by the way, I made it
Through the day
I watched the world outside
By the way, I’m leaving out
Today

I just saw Hayley’s comet
She waved
Said, “Why you always running in place?”
Even the man in the
Moon disappeared
Somewhere in the
Stratosphere

[Chorus]
Tell my mother,
Tell my father
I’ve done the best I can
To make them realize
This is my life
I hope they understand
I’m not angry, I’m just saying…
Sometimes goodbye
Is a second chance

Please don’t cry
One tear for me
I’m not afraid of
What I have to say
This is my one and
Only voice
So listen close, it’s
Only for today

I just saw Hayley’s comet
She waved
Said, “Why you always running in place?”
Even the man in the
Moon disappeared
Somewhere in the
Stratosphere

[Chorus]
Tell my mother,
Tell my father
I’ve done the best I can
To make them realize
This is my life
I hope they understand
I’m not angry, I’m just saying…
Sometimes goodbye
Is a second chance

Here’s my chance
This is my chance

Tell my mother,
Tell my father
I’ve done the best I can
To make them realize
This is my life
I hope they understand
I’m not angry, I’m just saying…
Sometimes goodbye
Is a second chance

[x2]
Sometimes goodbye
Is a second chance

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Tampa’s Warriors for Autism seeks to help parents of autistic children in the bay area, as Warriors for Autism does so nationally – Tampa Bay Times

Anthony Rivera, 13, gives his mom, Deena Rivera, a high-five at the camp. Deena founded Warriors for Autism after he was diagnosed more than 10 years ago.
Anthony Rivera, 13, gives his mom, Deena Rivera, a high-five at the camp. Deena founded Warriors for Autism after he was diagnosed more than 10 years ago.
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During an August Warriors for Autism camp at Horsepower for Kids, Zane Zigler, 8, rides Snowy, led by volunteer Christina Cruz.Alyssa Flannagan, 7, pets a chicken at Horsepower for Kids on Racetrack Road in Tampa where Deena Rivera’s nonprofit Warriors for Autism held the Aug. 6 camp. Jake Chase, 10, gets ready to hop on Snowy at Horsepower for Kids on Racetrack Road in Tampa, where Warriors for Autism held its camp Aug. 6.
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During an August Warriors for Autism camp at Horsepower for Kids, Zane Zigler, 8, rides Snowy, led by volunteer Christina Cruz.

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TOWN ‘N COUNTRY

When Deena and Olando Rivera found out their son, Anthony, was autistic, they experienced the stress and grief that many parents in their position face.

But more than 10 years after their son’s diagnosis, the couple has learned enough about dealing with the disorder to form a nonprofit organization to help support the local autism community.

“We had this lightbulb moment when we realized that after all the fundraising we did for other organizations, we still don’t have the services that we needed for our family or the other families that were in the community,” said Deena Rivera, founder and chief executive of Warriors for Autism. “We decided, ‘well let’s try to do this ourselves.’ We know what we need better than anybody. We know from our friends what they need so let’s give it a shot.”

Warriors for Autism provides life-enhancing services for families. It provides a wide range of activities for autistic children and helps those in the autistic community integrate into society through group meetings, education, job placement, fundraising and community events.

The need for local autism support is great, said Kelley Prince, founder and president of Behavioral Consulting of Tampa Bay, pointing out that the area has the sixth-highest number of cases of autism in the nation.

“I feel that, several years ago, the general public was not very educated on autism as a disorder,” Prince said. “Although there is more awareness today, it is still a foreign idea to many.”

All that the Riveras knew about autism at the time Anthony was diagnosed in 2001 was from the Academy Award-winning movie, Rain Man.

“When you think about it, Rain Man was pretty high functioning,” Rivera said of the movie’s autistic main character, played by Dustin Hoffman. “He could speak, he could dress himself. He was somewhat self-sufficient . . . People would wish that their child was as highly functional as a Rain Man.”

Anthony, now 13, also is high functioning. But autism symptoms and severity can vary from person to person, affecting their ability to interact and communicate with others.

The Riveras said they formed Warriors for Autism as a way to provide families the services and knowledge to help them cope, which is something that didn’t come to them right away.

“The big organizations like Autism Speaks were among the first ones assembling meetings, so that’s what we were drawn to,” Deena Rivera said. “But it’s always that reminder of how lonely and devastating it was back then that draws us to help other people.”

During the summer, the group has hosted weekly camps for autistic children at a local farm called Horse Power for Kids. The camps educate children about exotic animals and allows them to interact. They enjoy a variety of activities, including swimming, arts and crafts, field trips and horseback riding.

Tammy Matson, of Clearwater, said the camp has given her son, Ryan, an opportunity to play with animals, which isn’t something he would normally be able to do.

“Plus, the group of kids are kids who are like him,” she said.

Matson said her son has attended camps that aren’t specifically for children with autism, and he would sometimes get left out “because he may act a little different and might do things a little different than the rest of the kids.”

Susan Gettys, the director of education at Warriors for Autism, attests to the attention to detail autistic children need.

“It’s a matter of knowing children, each individual child,” Gettys said. “Deena says if you met one autistic child, you only met one autistic child.”

Warriors for Autism operates on private donations and fundraisers. Donations from the New York Yankees Foundation have helped with the annual summer camps, and the couple also uses Olando Rivera’s connections as a five-time world kickboxing champion to get contributions from area martial arts businesses.

“We’ve gone in for 10 years with autism and it’s been a ride through trial and error in a lot of what we’ve done,” Olando Rivera said. “But all we do is out of the kindness of our heart, because we want nothing but the best for our children.”

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For more information, go to warriorsforautism.org

On the Web

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go to warriorsforautism.org.